Over the years I have not done the best job staying in touch with my friends, especially my buddies from high school and college. As the years go by, and your responsibilities grow, it is easy to lose contact with your friends. For some reason, we men are not good at maintaining male friendships. Like many men, I fell into this trap, and did not keep strong ties with many of my friends over the years.
I was reminded of this fact several times the past few years. Two years ago I attended my 25th college reunion at UVA. It was a fun time. I saw many college friends that I have not talked to in years. It was great to catch up with old friends. We all change and many of us dealt with similar challenges in our life. Another example – last year I was able to spend an evening with several of my good friends from high school. They are all great guys, but I did not really talk much with them at all the past twenty plus years. We were making up for lost time. Something similar happened when I attended my 30th high school reunion. Once again it was great to see everyone.
This past weekend I was down in Charlottesville and spent some time with one of my best college buddies – Joe. We both are busy, and it is a challenge for us to get together on a regular basis. Even though we only had a few hours together – it was great. We talked about getting more of us together later this year. I am already looking forward to that event. Reuniting with old friends is always fun.
Studies show that women do a much better job at being friends for life. How do they do it – by spending time together. Facebook helps – I have reconnected with many old friends, but nothing replaces face to face communications. I challenge you to keep in touch with your buddies – it will pay big dividends over the years. Don’t make the mistake I made and lose touch with your friends.
Proverbs 14, verse 20: The poor man is hated even by his own neighbor, but the rich many has many friends.